marriage break up

Posted by: rockwalker

marriage break up - 01/10/05 09:01 PM

its a shame no a taversty that my passionate love of walking in the mountains and on the moors on a regular basis has led to the breakup from the love of my life (my wife who cant stand being left alone ) and the failure of my marriage.it'll be some time before I can revisit the lakes /snowdonia etc but I can tell you this I'LL BE BACK WITH A VENGENCE.so good by for now see ya all soon
the rockwalker
normally known as Martyn
Posted by: Tom de Sherwood

Re: marriage break up - 01/10/05 09:30 PM

Sorry for your troubles mate, but we will all be cheered up when we read the sound advice Norman will give [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/wink.gif[/img]
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 02/10/05 02:45 AM

Hi Martyn
I am so sorry of reading about the break up of your marriage,but as a bachelor,alas,I cannot give any contructive thoughts other than I hope and pray that things will work out fine for both of you.
Mark
Posted by: Slogger

Re: marriage break up - 02/10/05 04:48 PM

Martyn,
Sir Chris Bonnington once put it something along the lines of :- " Mountaining I suppose is selfish, yes it is selfish, but its love of the mountains and the burning desire to be among them, that makes me the person I am. Without them I would be a lesser person."
My wife no longer comes on walks with me, she used to, but due to health problems and the resulting lack of fitness, the walks became increasingly less enjoyable. She does get frustrated at times when I go off, but knows that I have to do the things that I do. Its all a compromise, and I try to assist her in the things she wants to do, even if it means foregoing something that I would rather do. Its easy to get so enthused with activities like running and walking that it becomes an obsession. Once it becomes an obsession, it then becomes the main focus and parteners feel threatened by it, and start to resent it.
Its then only a matter of time before it comes to a head.
Good luck to you.
Dave.
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 03/10/05 07:17 PM

Surely this is a case of closing the stable door after the horse as bolted.

By the way, that bedroom ceiling of yours needs a coat of paint.
Posted by: argonaut

Re: marriage break up - 03/10/05 08:09 PM

I know its spoken in a jocular mode, but i think thats a bit of an uncaring comment Norman, even for me.
Posted by: tonyk

Re: marriage break up - 03/10/05 11:09 PM

Everything is impermanent,wives,hills and real ale.Death is a great healer.
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 03/10/05 11:43 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by argonaut:
I know its spoken in a jocular mode, but i think thats a bit of an uncaring comment Norman, even for me.

I agree [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/rolleyes.gif[/img]
Nimrod
Posted by: Dr.BingoBongo

Re: marriage break up - 04/10/05 10:48 AM

I agree,as well,that it is an uncaring comment.

Its apparent jocularity is but a thin creme brulee crust atop a veritable custard of poison and bitterness.

All the best to you Martyn.....a great deal of peace and serenity is offered by a love of nature.
Keep your boots on.

Dr D.Hartley x
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 04/10/05 08:09 PM

thanks eveyone for there support even norm (i did the ceiling yesterday) after being totaly devastated by what happened I have now begun to get my head round the situation and have decided to look to the future and not to reminise,I must stress my wife and I are still even now very good friends and are relying on each other for support in getting through this termoil,we will remain close ,well after 30 years you aught to. As i said before thanks fellow coasters for your comments and I'll be out there soon, a bit thinner and maybe a happier person [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/wink.gif[/img]
martyn
Posted by: Slogger

Re: marriage break up - 04/10/05 11:52 PM

Tonyk,
You been reading the Dalai Llama?
Dave.
Posted by: Brina

Re: marriage break up - 05/10/05 01:44 AM

Hi there everyone,

This is my first time on TWCF. Just wanted to say that Martyn's problem is not a new one. Up here in the Lake District, lonely partners of walkers are referred to as: a Wainwright widow or widower.

I put my family through much worse I admit in that I dragged them up here to live (13 years ago). My husband now travels nearly 80 miles a day to get to work and back and my son's school is 50 miles away! All this so Mother can live amongst the fells!

I am sorry to hear that M's marriage has failed to survive his walking interests. On the bright side: there are many other interests which might have broken a relationship and also made friendship impossible. All the best Martyn (although I don't know you). B
Posted by: tonyk

Re: marriage break up - 05/10/05 11:40 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by Slogger:
Tonyk,
You been reading the Dalai Llama?
Dave.


I have read some of his works but prefer the Dzogchen teachings of Sogyal Rinpoche.
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 26/10/05 07:58 PM

I'm back up to the lakes in dec for a weekend hiking around pillar, high stile, haystacks,kirk fell, gable no worries or guilt feelings about leaving the loved one behind this time .I'll be there to enjoy and find new pastures(and hopefully a girlfriend who likes walking) [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/smile.gif[/img]
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 27/10/05 12:19 PM

Good on yer,Martyn.
When you find that girlfriend,ask her if she has her sister,or friend.
Nimrod
Posted by: MrBlister

Re: marriage break up - 27/10/05 06:15 PM

"If she has her sister", Nimrod? Isn't that illegal??
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 28/10/05 12:27 AM

Oops. It should have been "if she has a sister". Preferably in her twenties or thirties,looking a bit like Halle Berry...
I wish...
Nimrod
Posted by: argonaut

Re: marriage break up - 28/10/05 09:47 AM

Nimrod...."looking a bit like Halle Berry..."
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Knowing your luck she will look more like Chuck Berry.

Now there's a blast from the past. [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img]
Posted by: Spud

Re: marriage break up - 28/10/05 12:44 PM

Rock on!! - Saw Chuck Berry last year at the Grimsby Auditorium and he's still duck walking at 78!!! - Brilliant!!
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 28/10/05 01:30 PM

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Yep,you're probably right [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/eek.gif[/img]
Nimrod
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 28/10/05 01:32 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Spud:
Rock on!! - Saw Chuck Berry last year at the Grimsby Auditorium and he's still duck walking at 78!!! - Brilliant!!


Saw him at Middlesbrough Town Hall 25 years ago - I think he was 78 then. Still brilliant!!
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 28/10/05 09:18 PM

hey guys I have found a very delectible lady on a personals site I now frequent (I know its sad ) BUT there is this absolutly fantastic woman on that I've fallen in love with instantly, not only is she super fit but climbs bikes(sorry)swims and does it better than your mr average so I'm holding out for a chance to meet her,for all our woman readers I know its soon after my separation but i'm 50 and I cant afford to hang around + the ex has someone already to keep her warm at night AND I've had to get rid of my 2 year old border terrier (TEARS)because I couldent take her with me to my new digs and the ex 's pad has a no pets policy. aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh roll on december .
anyway lads I'll keep my ear to the ground for sisters and suchlike
regards
a much cheerfuller rockwalker [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/wink.gif[/img]
Posted by: Redlesweb

Re: marriage break up - 29/10/05 06:30 AM

Good for you rockwalker. Grab the opportunity and enjoy :-D
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 29/10/05 06:00 PM

It'll all end in tears.
Posted by: Countryfile

Re: marriage break up - 29/10/05 07:46 PM

But can she swim with a bike whilst climbing.
and how are you gonns keep up chasing her round the bedroom !!
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 30/10/05 08:22 AM

Ill cross that bed when I come to it or should I leap [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/wink.gif[/img]
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 30/10/05 06:29 PM

She is the bike isn't she.....every ones riding her!
Posted by: argonaut

Re: marriage break up - 30/10/05 10:45 PM

OOOOOOH Norman.
Posted by: Redlesweb

Re: marriage break up - 31/10/05 08:52 AM

Norman Walker - consider yourself well and truly slapped!!
Posted by: Janice & Rottie

Re: marriage break up - 31/10/05 02:09 PM

Just read all of this and the worst part was having to get rid of the dog....come on...find a new pad !!!!!
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 31/10/05 02:47 PM

I bet she's flattened some grass in her time as well.
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 31/10/05 03:59 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Redlesweb:
Norman Walker - consider yourself well and truly slapped!!


Careful - he might enjoy it [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img]
Nimrod
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 12/11/05 04:35 PM

sorry rotty no can do got a fine place but the l/lady has 2 cats and this place is very reasonable (cheap'n cheerfull)the dog has gone to a great place in the countryside and gets out into fields 3 times a day which is more than Ive got out in 2 months,am now back and sorted so i'll be doing more posting from now on
now the woman in question(gillian you know who you are)has been toying with me so iv'e given her up as a bad job so am now looking for a suitable female to give my attention to perhaps we should have a sub section on c2c for dating everybugger else seems to be doing it
regards martyn
Posted by: argonaut

Re: marriage break up - 12/11/05 07:51 PM

well why dont you start one.
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 13/11/05 02:54 PM

Rockwalker, i'll let you borrow one of mine.
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 13/11/05 06:14 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by norman walker:
Rockwalker, i'll let you borrow one of mine.


Any spare,Norman?
Nimrod
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 14/11/05 03:27 PM

yes, several spare ones in my stable, they could all do with a good rogering !
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 14/11/05 04:02 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by norman walker:
yes, several spare ones in my stable, they could all do with a good rogering !


I know you like sleeping in stables,but...but really [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/eek.gif[/img]
Nimrod
Posted by: debbie

Re: marriage break up - 15/11/05 11:23 PM

what's rogering?
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 16/11/05 12:08 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by debbie:
what's rogering?


Over to you,Norman!
Nimrod
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 16/11/05 04:03 PM

I am sure you've had your share!!
Posted by: debbie

Re: marriage break up - 16/11/05 07:43 PM

well norman, i wish! but no, i'm a sheltered convent girl, living in hope and thanks plodder i'll ask the vicar.
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 17/11/05 01:59 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by norman walker:
I am sure you've had your share!!


Really,that's no way to speak to a lady!
Nimrod
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 17/11/05 02:51 PM

I once lived in hope, but know I live in sin.

Alas sex as been greatly over rated by the poets, I have never had a lover with thighs like white marble, its the inconvenience of sex they never tell you about.
Posted by: debbie

Re: marriage break up - 17/11/05 08:28 PM

thank you nimrod.

you're right though norman, there's always something more interesting on the telly. but if you do meet the thighs of white marble, tell her to get her shorts on and walk the coast to coast. it worked for me, thighs of exquisite golden hue. aah, such a waste!!
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 18/11/05 04:55 PM

Debbie what do you think of this poem.

John Betjeman - Myfanwy

Kind o’er the kinderbank leans my Myfanwy,
White o’er the playpen the sheen of her dress,
Fresh from the bathroom and soft in the nursery
Soap scented fingers I long to caress.

Were you a prefect and head of your dormit'ry?
Were you a hockey girl, tennis or gym?
Who was your favourite? Who had a crush on you?
Which were the baths where they taught you to swim?

Smooth down the Avenue glitters the bicycle,
Black-stockinged legs under navy blue serge,
Home and Colonial, Star, International,
Balancing bicycle leant on the verge.

Trace me your wheel-tracks, you fortunate bicycle,
Out of the shopping and into the dark,
Back down the avenue, back to the pottingshed,
Back to the house on the fringe of the park.

Golden the light on the locks of Myfanwy,
Golden the light on the book on her knee,
Finger marked pages of Rackham's Hans Anderson,
Time for the children to come down to tea.

Oh! Fullers angel-cake, Robertson’s marmalade,
Liberty lampshade, come shine on us all,
My! what a spread for the friends of Myfanwy,
Some in the alcove and some in the hall.

Then what sardines in half-lighted passages!
Locking of fingers in long hide-and-seek.
You will protect me, my silken Myfanwy,
Ring leader, tom-boy, and chum to the weak.

Credit: Reprinted with the permission of John Murray (Publishers) Ltd
Posted by: argonaut

Re: marriage break up - 18/11/05 08:02 PM

Originally posted by Debbie........
.............."what's rogering"?

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Now come on Debbie, think i read somewhere that you are approaching the big 40.
Dont tell me you havent had a good rogering befor now. ;o).lol.
Posted by: debbie

Re: marriage break up - 18/11/05 11:28 PM

well, norman. what can i say?! i loved the poem, it conjures up wonderful pictures of first love. i've never been sent a poem before, thank you, i especially liked the last line, it describes me to a tee! so, norman what line from poetry describes you?
Posted by: debbie

Re: marriage break up - 18/11/05 11:35 PM

and as for you argonaut, it's young chrissy, my fellow c2c walker who is heading for the big 40, i am getting ready to cannonball into the even bigger 50 soon. but you're right, there was a time ...!
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 19/11/05 12:04 AM

it started so sad and now poetry that makes the heart strings tingle i had major reservations about putting up this posting but it cetainly has given food for thought and norm time to recite his bit for humanity,update on things still single but working at it, open to sencible offers from women Norm not you !!!!!!!!!!!!! [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/wink.gif[/img]and the dog is happy (the ex is now lonely) [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/rolleyes.gif[/img]
Posted by: argonaut

Re: marriage break up - 19/11/05 08:11 AM

aaah..fond memories. [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/wink.gif[/img]
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 19/11/05 05:11 PM

Black-stockinged legs under navy blue serge!
Posted by: debbie

Re: marriage break up - 19/11/05 10:56 PM

is that to cover your thighs of white marble?
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 20/11/05 03:38 PM

Not really, I just like dressing up, now and again.
Posted by: debbie

Re: marriage break up - 20/11/05 10:49 PM

bless
Posted by: lightweightmick

Re: marriage break up - 21/11/05 06:36 PM

tr.v. Chiefly British Vulgar Slang rog·ered, rog·er·ing, rog·ers

To have sexual intercourse with (a woman). Used of a man.


[From Roger, spoken representation of the letter r, short for received. V., from Roger, penis from the name Roger.]

...didn't expect to find that in the dic.

Glad to hear you're bearing up Mart m8!
Posted by: Nimrod

Re: marriage break up - 21/11/05 08:02 PM

I'm off to the club - I'm in the chair!
Nimrod
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: marriage break up - 22/11/05 02:06 PM

Not old smokey I hope!
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 22/11/05 08:59 PM

cheers mick Im now doing fine got myself a very nice lady who walks and will be intoducted to the lakes at the earliest opertunaty,perhaps even as early as this dec we shall see,hope to see you out there over the winter (kinder plateau) [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img]
regards martyn
Posted by: lightweightmick

Re: marriage break up - 06/12/05 08:50 PM

Hi Mart,
would be good if we could meet up sometime - I'm not too far from you, maybe we could utilise both cars for an A-B or team up for a circular? Ive been wanting to re-do 'the edges'- Moscar to Robin Hood (15m) for some time...
...you might just be otherwise occupied now though?
cheers, mick
Posted by: rockwalker

Re: marriage break up - 11/12/05 10:14 PM

no problem mick can do either just got back from a good w/end in the lakes (ennerdale yha)apart from the fog and rain and mist it went well, had a good walk spoilt by mist on sat but todays stroll went very well, no unattached females (sorry nimrod)but loads of real ale(doris's 90 th and helvellyn blond) and wine then there is the 4 1/2 hour trip home .it looks like im back into it boys 'n girls regards to you all
martyn [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/biggrin.gif[/img] [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.coast2coast.co.uk/ubb/smile.gif[/img]
Posted by: Lounge Lizard

Re: marriage break up - 12/06/06 05:12 PM

rockwalker. Commiserations on the break up of your marriage. I hope you don't mind a personal question during these difficult times, but before getting married did you follow the advice of the great Wainwright himself, namely "To a young man seeking a wife, neatness is the first essential; a trim appearance, a dainty body, a precise outlook. Intelligence is the next virtue to seek, and it is a rare one; it is the compararive deficiency in intellect that makes woman's claim for equality with man pathetic. Next in importance is a sense of humour. But the girl who laughs loudly is to be avoided; look for one who smiles rather than laughs, whose heartiest guffaw is never more than a quiet chuckle" ?